PRT211 – I Cannot Take a Good Selfie

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  • Jen Gallacher

    Ok. I’m totally giggling that the title of this episode is a confession I make later in the recording. Way to out me, Izzy! ;)

  • SewcialButterfly

    To the person concerned about posting to facebook and sharing/oversharing. She doesnt need to open a new account, that is actually against facebook guidelines. The easy thing to do is create goups and assign people to that group. I have a special group set up for my scapbook friends and others for family and IRL Friends. When you post, you can manually set the audience from one post to the next. One post can be for all FB Friends, the next can be set to only be visible by Family and the next only Scrapbook friends.
    She can post layouts and set visibility to specific groups on photo albums too. She can set a scrapbook specific photo album that is visible only to her scrapbook group friends and post layouts to that album. Or if she posts to her wall she can set the visibility permissions to hide from peoples feed who may see it as spam if the feed is flooded with LO pics. I hope that makes sense.
    You can also exclude groups from posts. If she is scared of sharing personal info or posts with people she only knows in the online scrapbook world, she can set the audience permissions to exclude a group too. You can control what people see in FB more than people realize. Get to know all the ways Facebook has set up our accounts. You will be surprised.

  • SewcialButterfly

    Kept listening and hear that is exactly what Izzy said. LOL

  • Marie-Pierre Capistran

    Thanks to you and Izzy! I just dabbled around in Facebook and I found out that what you are talking about are not groups, but lists. I will take some moment this week to create lists. I’m curious to know if when I post a layout on Instagram and share it on FB at the same time, if it asks me who can see it… Probably not.

    Noell, you totally got my question right. It’s not as much that I don’t want to flood my “friends” with all my layouts, and it’s not because I’m shy of what I do, it’s more that I journal a ton (!!) on my pages and I don’t want my ex-boyfriend to know all the details of my life for example, or every acquaintance I had in high school…. For a long time I thought these people were probably not interested in reading my pages and that they would probably not look at them, but some weeks ago, somebody did read every word once and came back to me with negative feedback. Since I don’t want to alter what I write on my layout because of everyone watching, making a couple of lists seems to be a good option. :) I’ll get to it.

    Thanks for reading my question Noell!!!

  • Brenda Wilson

    I’m looking forward to a Paperclipping video created out of studio using Izzy’s video car-mount. Thanks for another fun show.

  • Ha ha, yes. But you went into much more detail. If she’s interested in going this route, your comment will be super helpful!

  • Oh yeah, what a weird experience that must have been!! I totally get it.
    (and, you’re welcome). :)

  • LOL, It’ll literally be a Scrapbooking On the Road tutorial.

  • Bethany Rielage

    You can also create a business page if you want to just for your scrapbooking. I’m a consultant for Close to My Heart, so I created a page just for posting layouts, cards, and information for my customers. That way I don’t have to “friend” someone who’s just interested in my scrapbooking stuff. They can just “like” my page.

  • geezee

    Another Solution could be that if the journaling is not Important to share publicly you may be able to ‘frost’ part of it. Even Julie Fei Fan Balzer blurs some of her journaling and even though it creates a curiosity for me, I respect her privacy and love that I get to see what she shares.

  • PjP

    Sod NPR! Take pictures: take LOTS of ’em. The best dog I ever had died suddenly and horribly, at just over 2 years of age, in mid-April. Yes, I’ve got lots of pictures of my lovely girl, but not nearly enough. I thought there’d be plenty of time to take pictures of all of the weird little stuff she used to do. I thought she’d be with me for at least another decade but we only had 26 months together and all I have left of her are a few puppy teeth, a box of ashes and those precious, precious photos. It doesn’t matter if your camera’s not the greatest, or if you’re not really confident about your abilities as a photographer — all the matters in the end (which may be much nearer than you think) are the photos.

  • Andrea

    Ok so I was all excited to say something about this episode, but then my ipad ate my comment! I’m going to see if i can remember what I said. The thing is, the conversation about feeling layouts vs everyday (potentially “boring”) layouts really struck a chord with me. I think the ladies got it right by saying that it is good to review your layouts and see what you enjoy looking back on and/or what feels the most meaningful. I am much more intentional when it comes to which feeling layouts I create and making sure I have some everyday layouts about myself so that my albums provide a fuller picture of who I am. I know not everyone creates for their children or other family, but it is a big motivator for me. When my grandfather passed away, my dad regretted not really knowing his own father well. Taking that as my cue I began emailing my dad questions about who he is and how he thinks, and it has been an amazing on going conversation. Because of this I have shifted focus a bit in my scrapbooks-I want my daughter to know who her mama is and how I thought about and approached life. So in case I miss some opportunities to show her in real life, at least she can learn these things through my scrapbooks.
    Thanks for another great episode!

  • vintageplaid

    I laughed so hard about the “lollipop” regrets discussion. I am SO happy to learn I am not the only one who has made purchases later to be regretted. I loved May’s little blog series where she forced herself to use a product purchased long ago and never used. Those videos were so much fun to watch.
    And a thought about the slip-n-slide discussion. In years past parents would watch their kids play for a while, then if the kids are old enough to play on their own, they would return to their conversations and activities and not just hover over the kids playing. And this is totally ok! Noell, I am guessing it just felt odd because you were looking at pictures of what was going on right then rather than watching the live action. One of the changes in interaction because of our current technology. The point was that you we’re hanging out with your sisters. In years past you might have been sitting around the kitchen table together knitting or mending clothes, or something like that!
    Great discussion as always! Thanks.

  • Jen Gallacher

    Oh I love that! What a great idea. :)

  • That was exactly what I was getting at with the comment about the slip and slide! In days gone by people didn’t think they had to be “present” for every moment of their kid’s lives. Not that it’s bad to be there watching your kids play. As you said vintageplaid, it’s that odd feeling of looking at something in review while it’s still happening, instead of watching the real thing right in front of us.
    Anyway, thanks Noell for reading my comment.
    And Izzy, someone is blogging at!! :)

  • I totally relate to what May (I hope it was May!) said about the people pages. I like favorite things lists or kid quotes, but I don’t much care for the generic “love you so much” pages, or the pages/PL cards that say “best day ever” but don’t share any specific details. Not that I have a problem with people making those pages if they love them. Everyone should make the pages that they love. But I would rather have a specific story, details of what made the day great, or a kid-written list what the kid is into right now on my pages. I have a lot of trouble using sentiments on my layouts because for one thing I’m more of a stoic British “obviously I love you. You should be able to tell because I made this page, so why do I need to say it as well?” kind of person ;) but also because I have too many photos and too much journaling to fit in – there’s no space to waste on generic sentiment. If I had scrapbooks from my mother I would rather know what weird things I used to draw (like ladies with boobies) or how I reacted to accidentally ordering a dozen raw oysters when I was on vacation aged 8, rather than reading that I was the cutest or that my mother loves me more than anything.

  • If you share in instagram and facebook at the same time I believe you only have the option to share with the big 3 groups – friends, friends of friends, or public.
    Chances are those acquaintances you don’t talk to so often are not seeing all of your posts anyway – as someone else brought up, facebook is hiding a lot of posts from people you don’t have much contact with. But what Izzy and SewcialButterfly are talking about is the best way to tailor your posts to your audience. But it’s difficult to do when cross posting on instagram.
    Just one more thing, although you can exclude people, don’t rely on that too much. I used that feature to hide a post after my uncle died, and my family who were excluded still somehow saw it. I was NOT happy. But there was nothing I could do to make them un-see it. :(

  • vintageplaid

    I can totally relate to your comments, Joanna. To my mind, over repetition of grand phrases weakens them, but specifics matter most later. So far my favorite pages are the ones that list what a person was doing or saying at a given time of their lives. I have threatened my husband with a layout about his back surgery, listing all the things he said while on extremely heavy-duty pain meds. That would be a great spin on a very, literally, painful time in his life!

  • So, I am gonna go ahead and charge on in here….. it was awesome to hear what Jen had shared about taking the conversation about gender back to her company and there being a response. That was awesome and very validating to hear! However, I did want to add some thoughts about the whole “gender thing.” Noell, I think no matter how you tackle it and how sensitive you are to the many feelings about genderism conversations, it’s gonna be a sensitive topic – as evidenced by the suggestion of ignoring the gendering and use what products you so desire raising a stink….. with that said, I sell my products to support my paper addiction. And I cannot tell you how gender neutral doesn’t sell – people want gender themed stuff. ALSO, I can tell you living in a state where gay marriage happens, I get all types of requests for gay marriage cards – and there are no stamps appropriate to this particular subculture in the US! Okay, to the point. Papercrafting is a hobby and for some of us a profession, and I think all of us get started into scrapbooking in the same way, through theme orientated scrapbooking. I think at some point as you increase your skills as a papercrafting, you test and explore the limits, which includes crossing themes! GASP. I wonder how much of the frustration with the gendered scrapbook products occurs when you have arrived at the point of differentiation in your crafting and are unsure of how to break the mold so to speak – or may even be uncomfortable breaking the mold? And in all honesty, scrapbooking is what I do to enjoy myself, I really don’t have time to make a political statement about the choice of my paper – the thought does not go beyond “do I like this paper, and will it go with the feel of my sentiments and layout?” Maybe a great topic to tackle this issue would be to explore how we can take our themed products and expand and use them outside of their intended purpose?

    Side note, I agree with May I would like non gender specific stickers – that would make life so much easier. But then again if you have an electronic die cut machine you can make your own nongendered stickers……..

  • Teresa S

    Really enjoyed this episode. I hope you do this again periodically.

  • Ha ha ha!!

  • Oh, that’s awful that happened! :( Thanks for sharing that it’s not guaranteed to work. How disturbing!!

  • I have just come to segment about posting photos/layouts on the internet and how nothing is ever private.

    We are really pioneers of parenting in the age of social media. We cannot possibly predict how the things we post online about our kids will effect our kids when they are adults. There’s a lot of talk about educating our children that what is on the internet never goes away, but we rarely address the fact that what we post and share about our children doesn’t go away either.

    There are just so many ways we can hurt our kids through social media without realizing it and without immediate consequences. For instance, colleges and employers check social media to learn about applicants. I’m not sure if this means the information they glean on line is strictly limited to the applicant and even if they aren’t supposed to, humans are curious creatures. I don’t want to find out that the rebellious phase my kid went through last year really hurt his chances of being successful. That’s just one pitfall. There are so many others- predators, bullies, scammers (child identity theft is thing)… and lord forbid any of our children want to be politicians!

    We are connected to our kids online, especially those of us with kids old enough to have Facebook. Privacy settings help, but Facebook is always changing them. You can’t guarantee that something will stay between “friends”.

    And also, if you hate people posting things that embarrass you, why post things that might embarrass your kids? You may think it’s okay because it’s cute or you’re the parent, but you can’t truly speak for your child. Only they can tell you if they are comfortable with sharing something. When they’re small, you need to think about what they’d want in the future instead of throwing up photos of them potty training (a good example your guest used). Everything I share about my son is now first approved by him. I’m also very careful about what I say about him on social media because ultimately, I’m his mother and I set the example of appropriate online behavior. We don’t speak ill of those we love. :)

  • I wholeheartedly agree. I had a similar experience with a cat. He loved the camera, so I have so many photos of him, but it still feels like I should have taken more.

  • ldmccarty

    Hi Noell,

    If/when you do a show on gendered papers/products, please do make a distinction between THEMED and GENDERED. Take the gamer paper as an example. Is it helpful to have THEMED paper/stickers geared toward gamers? Absolutely. The problem comes when the THEME becomes GENDERED. It’s not gamer w/’kid’ as the descriptor, it’s gamer w/’boy’.

    It’s when a paper manufacturer takes it upon him/herself to presume to tell us which GENDER goes w/which THEME. Cooking? Must be girl, cutie, sweet, etc. Kayaking? Must be boy, dude, little man, etc.

    Manufacturers, keep the THEME, lose the presumption to tell us which gender it belongs to.

  • Cara Vincens

    Yes, I totally agree! My son loves horses, he has since he was 6 months old. Most horse related things, be that scrapbooking or clothes or toys, it’s all geared towards girls, in that makes-me-puke-pink we see everywhere and purple. I even saw a nerf gun line for girls… sort of like hunger games… the cross bow was pink! Come on! Can’t we just have horse themed things and well, I hate toy weapons in the first place, but if we can’t get rid of them completely can we have them neutral please?

  • HelenH

    Well said, Carrie. I think this is a more interesting topic than gender-themed supplies.

  • Youngmi

    I loved this episode! So many great topics all rolled into one show. I too have some Magic Scraps slides that I never used. At the time they looked SO COOL… I never used a single one. I also have a sack of glitter sand. What in the world do I do with that?? I think it got used on one layout and it was weird. Oh Magic Scraps… By the way, I listen to the Roundtable as I walk to work and the duck-hole-shot made me laugh hysterically. I must have looked crazy but it was totally worth it. Thanks for another awesome episode!

  • Amen to that. Even Call of Duty, notoriously male-centric, recently figured out girls can game and provided gender choices for their characters. If they can do it successfully, surely scrapbook manufacturers can.

    It’s not just paper issue, either, you see it in digital product as well. It’s just getting less gender specific faster in digi because of the digi works.

    That said, I think part of the fault lies with consumers. We, as a whole, still assign colors gender. We also assign gender to motifs (like hearts and rainbows for girls and cars and dirt for boys). I’m seeing more breaking of those stereo-types on pages, but I don’t think it’s enough to really change the way scrapbookers buy and use gender specific products.

  • You’ve got me thinking: My son was born in 2001. In his age group, girls seem to outnumber boys 2 to 1. It makes me wonder how the ratio of male to females influences scrapbooker purchases. If you have a set of scrapbookers with more female children, I would think that girl products would sell better. It would be interesting to see a break down of demographics along a scrapbookers age, the ages of their children (if any), and how each group approaches gendered (or non gendered) supplies.

    I will say that if I had daughter and not a son, shopping for not just scrapbook supplies, but even things like clothes, shoes, furniture, et al would be easier. There are simply more options and styles for female children. I’ll never forget the ordeal I had trying to find my son dress shoes a few years ago for a formal event. I went to every single store that sold shoes in our county. I found ONE pair in one style. If he were a girl, I could gotten dress shoes at 100 different places.

  • As a former kid myself, I loved bow and arrows, but I wouldn’t want it to be pink because that’s not what a real bow and arrow looks like.

    Also, I never got those GI Joes I wanted. But I did have horses that looked like horses. :)

  • vintageplaid

    I remember Karen Grunberg talking about using pink glitter on her pages about her sons. Her point was that she liked using it and that was totally ok because she was the one making the layout and was free to use what she chose. If themed collections are just fun and interesting (while I love the concept of “neutral” it is a fairly bland word!), wouldn’t it be possible to individualize the feel of the collection just by adding elements such as a doily or a geometric shape. Or some pink glitter! Or maybe put some feminine AND masculine elements in a collection to give options. One thing I have learned from the PRT is to think outside the box when looking at a pre-designed collection. Use the unwanted elements in another layout… Knowing my granddaughter, I fully expect to make layouts in future that will have both John Deere tractors and doilies on the same page…with maybe a princess crown. I doubt if I will find those elements packaged together anyplace!
    And regarding the pink horses — often they are paired with brown, and that is really not MY favorite color combination. ;)

  • Teresa S

    Another scrapbooking icon gone. Don’t you quit on us Noell and Izzy!

  • I’m assuming you’re talking about 2 Peas closing. I know there has been a lot of rumors going around, but I was still shocked beyond belief when I got that email this morning! I wasn’t extremely active on the forum, but I would check in a couple of times a day to look for newsy stuff. So sad!!!!

  • Good thinking. Thank you for clarifying this!

  • Genger

    We all have lollipop purchases. I like that I can relate to the people that are guest and know we all make the same mistakes. I will say that after listening for so long, Noell can still make me lol when she comes out of no where with questions like Do you have fur traders in your family tree? Thanks!

  • That’s what I’m here for, baby.

    My mom often talks about how I used to make dinner guests roar with laughter from all my randomness. She’ll be glad to know I still got it. LOL!

  • May

    I love this. in fact going to change my crafting slogan to “the stoic part British crafter” BECAUSE… as you said: obviously I love you. You should be able to tell because I made this page, so why do I need to say it as well? LOL!!!

  • My Sizzix Lollipop dies: DCWV Paper Stacks with glazed surface, foiling, or glitter….

  • ARC

    I’m so sorry for your loss. We lost our two dogs within 2 months of each other this year (they were old, so not totally unexpected, but still awful). I had no idea at the time, but the last time we all went to the dog park as a family, I took my DSLR on a whim, and I am SO glad because those are the last good photos I got of my guys. I didn’t have the heart to photograph them once they got really sick and we knew the end was near, because that wasn’t how I wanted to remember them.

  • ARC

    This is true with baby and kid clothing as well and it drives me batty. All the cute mutt or bulldogs are on “boy” clothes while girls get pink poodles and tiny fluffy dogs :P

  • ARC

    I have a bunch of these and they are *fantastic* for kid projects. I make banners with my daughter, or give her those papers to make cards, etc. And I’ve also found that some of the DCWV cuts *wonderfully* in the Silhouette, better than Bazzill and some of the AC cardstock I’ve tried.

  • BeatriceS

    I started this comment when I first heard the episode about Gender Specific Products, but never got around to finishing it…but since you asked for more thoughts on the topic I dug up the draft and finished it up-
    I have 3 boys and 1 non-princessy girl. I do gravitate towards the “boy lines” not for the icons or theminess or because society tells me that’s what I should use for my children, but for the color combinations and patterns. In general lines with that label or in the genera just seem to work better for my layouts. Don’t get me wrong I love flowers, but they don’t usually look right to me on a layout with my child playing trains, Legos, cars, field hockey etc. I rarely buy a whole line- I usually skip the most icon specific sheets of game controllers, rockets, sports equipment, but designs like dots, stripes, plaids or even stars and gears are pretty universal to me and I will use on lots of layouts regardless of the photos theme from family to my boys or vacation to layouts about my daughter. I am not shopping with photos in hand or even specific photos in mind, but by what I think will coordinate with the photos I have and the personalities of the people I am scrapping.

    Where are listeners seeing lines grouped or sold by gender? When you say scrapbook store do you mean a brick and mortar store that’s main focus is scrapbooking or chain craft supply stores? In our area there are only chains like Michaels, JoAnns and ACMoore. I shop at them all and yes they do tend to group new seasonal themes together like Halloween and Christmas on endcaps or smaller racks, but I find their general papercrafting supplies to be grouped by manufacturer/designer- there is a Tim Holtz Ranger section, Heidi Swapp section, Martha Stewart, Project Life or by item- punches are together, stickers are together, stamps, papers by color and so on. There is no boy section or girls section. Honestly they rarely carry any of the manufacturers that typically have specific gender specific lines or other popular manufacturers in general- if I want Echo Park, Fancy Pants, Crate Paper, Websters Pages, Basic Grey, Studio Calico, Jellibean Soup, ect.. I have to shop online- where I search by manufacturer/line, honestly I haven’t even noticed if there is an easily way to search products by gender on the sites I buy from.

    The whole gender issue is an on going issue in our society in general, I don’t really think it impacts what I buy or how I scrapbook. When I had my daughter I saw the larger issue and we tailored our parenting to address issues we saw in marketing and society. She was never a girly girly, never caught the princess craze, loves sports and has always played with a mix of toys from gender neutral, to more typical girl or boy toys. In turn our sons have played dress up and our oldest son had longish hair by his choice until he was 1st or 2nd grade. I find after you’ve incorporated your views on gender issues into your everyday life and how you live, it’s easier to let the small things like the name of a paperline go. My husband and I have come along way since we had our daughter 11 yrs ago and can even joke about Pink and Blue- the code his mother still loves to use when referring to a grandchild without using their name- because calling our daughter The Pink is just so far from reality it can be seen as nothing but silly at this point:-)

    Another topic in that episode that stuck with me is the use of the term Average Scrapbooker vs Majority of Scrapbookers- are they the same- Who is the average scrapbooker today or what do the majority of scrapbookers look like? Is it someone who listens to your show, someone who shops online or is it some who is out there searching Michaels for spaghetti paper? I am probably not the average scrapbooker, but I can’t imagine the average would be someone looking for only super specific themed products like that either. Maybe that’s what a beginner scrapbooker would be looking for, but I would think the average or majority would use or at least be aware of a wider variety of products and tools even if they have only been exposed to what the big chains stores offer.

    I follow the CHA sneak peaks and reveals and always have a wish list going. These are the items I buy online- usually in 1 or 2 big orders once most of it is finally available, supplementing with goodies I find at the chain stores, Target or Staples. I have been scrapping regularly for about 13 yrs now, I have been to 8 CKCs, taken various classes in person and online. I do have a dedicated crafting area in my home- so I am probably a little more hardcore than an average scrapbooker, but I bet there many scrapbookers on a similar level to myself:-)

  • Ruth G

    Jen, I am so with you, though! My teen daughter looks amazing in every single selfie and I look like a complete goofball, so Izzy outed many people with that title, LOL!

  • Niki Ruda

    Behind in my listening as I had to finish the school year … Whew! Now that the frenzy is over I can again resume the activities that make me human! As I was saying, getting caught up…I really and truly do not understand the whole “selfie” concept. I just don’t; it’s not for me. I look at others and think they are darling and fun, etc but would not dream of taking a pic of myself just for the sake of taking a pic…but I have a confession. I’ve been practicing. Oh my…reality has hit home…time to make some serious improvements to this selfie of mine! (Not sure if you can see the one with this post but I had to take one for my graduate instructor as a part of my university profile. That was almost a year ago and hadn’t taken one since…LOL!)

    My Pick of the Week: Echo Park’s line “That’s My BOY”. I’ve been looking for inspiration to go back to some older photos of repeated everyday events and found just what I needed. Thank you Echo Park and!!