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PRT196 – Start Over in the Morning

This week we’re talking about balancing family and scrapbooking time.

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  • Gretchen Henninger

    Thanks for another great episode.
    Quick question, how would a newbie get started on Instagram? particularly in becoming part of the scrapbooking community (finding people to follow, getting people to follow you, etc.)
    Thanks, Gretchen (a/k/a StampingRooster)

  • http://kissandtellscrapbooking.typepad.com/ Katie Scott

    Online Scrapbook Communities where you will get feedback on your layouts:
    Get It Scrapped; Big Picture Classes and the Counterfeit Kit Challenge Blog; I think too if you are a digi-scrapbooker the store communities are quite active.

    On finding time to scrapbook when kids are little:
    There is a whole mommy-guilt thing that goes on no matter what you are doing away from your kids, but not only guilt but I also felt like I didn’t want to miss anything. I did scrapbook when my kids were little but if I had to do things over again, I would focus much more on writing the stories of the day down than I spent on scrapbooking. And I was one of those moms like Ashli who let the kids scrapbook or create along with me – that helped me a lot. Nowadays, I scrapbook after I drop the kids off at school and before I go to work – there is an hour or so in there that I claim as mine. The other thing I wanted to mention is that my sister had a child about 10 years before I did and when my kids were little and even now, she’s always said that parenting doesn’t get easier or less time consuming as they get older – it just gets different – so might as well figure out how you are going to fit in scrapbooking while they are still little, because the kids getting older won’t necessarily mean that you will magically have more time – you have to carve out your me time.

    On faster scrapbooking:
    I think Ruth’s kit suggestion is excellent – and just stick to using what is right on hand. I also have this theory of “pick it and stick it” so that I adhere everything to my page as I’m working on the page so I can move on to the next decision – it helps me speed up my process. Plus Noell’s suggestion of having a go-to page design is a great one – I recently re-listened to PRT episode #167 on design crutches and I think they are super time saving.

  • http://kissandtellscrapbooking.typepad.com/ Katie Scott

    Hey Gretchen – once you set up an Instagram account, think of a scrapbooker you like – like say Noell or Ashi Oliver or even Big Picture Classes and then look at who they follow and/or who is commenting on their posts – if you look at who your scrapbooking friends follow or interact with then you will easily find the scrapbooking community on Instagram. Everyone in the online scrapbook world is there and it is my current favorite social media platform. :) Katie.

  • Teri Hartman

    I made the round table discussion! How exciting!!! Thanks for including my comment from last week!

    I really like Ruth’s comment about the power we have to tell our family’s story as the family scrapbooker. Maybe to decrease the “one perspective” bias, maybe there could be another episode discussing how to get more of the family involved. I know some scrappers have their kids/spouse write journaling down. I let me girls do some of their own scrapbook pages and then insert them into their albums. At 8 and 7 their pages are pretty adorable, and will be fun to look back on as they grow older.

    Thanks for another good episode, and speaking about the mom guilt that some of us struggle with when it comes to cultivating personal scrapbooking time. I get together with three other friends once a month to scrapbook, and my girls will craft with me sometimes, so I get some time in without feeling guilty.

  • Jenny Riebler-Großmann

    Well, just dropping by to say hi from Germany! I heard about you a while ago, but didn’t get hooked to the show til about a month ago. Since then I listened to a lot of your podcasts and I love them! Thanks for always keeping such a good spirit during the show and sharing so much laughter. I have to admit I just LOVE Izzys’ dirty laughter! Oh and please keep up the producer/husband thing at the beginning! Whenever I listen I am excited (I was about to say anxious but thanks for teaching us that this is not the word we want to be using hahaha) to hear whether husband or producer comes first. It’s such a good running gag!
    I can’t say much about this weeks topic because I don’t have any children yet but I do have a boyfriend and because it was mentioned during the show, you know setting up the XBox and such I can share my experience with that. A while ago I decided that while he is playing computer games I can do my scrapbooking. So I started to take along my scrapbooking supplies (we have a long-distance relationship and get to see each other about every other weekend), mostly my Project Life, to work on it. So now I just can go ahead and say: “Hey don’t you want to go and play Arma 3?” It’s a win-win situation. I can do my PL while my boyfriend thinks I am the best girlfriend in the whole wide world :D Besides video games playing boyfriends make the best scrapbook layouts! Last week I scribbled down all the fun things he says/shouts during playing and it’s hilarious!

  • http://www.liznessstudio.com Liz Ness

    Thanks so much for including my question on the show! I’m grateful for the ideas and thoughts about how to link up–I never would have thought of Instagram or Pintrest. But, those venues totally make sense! I’m hooked into them for photography–but, these venues just never occurred to me. Plus, I love what Ruth said about it not having to be the biggest place, just a place that’s right for me (or anyone). And, I loved Ashli’s point that the Paperclipping community is a great place to “commune.”

    Also, totally relate to Ruth’s point about how something that “gets you churned up” can really impact creativity. In retrospect, I went from scrapping often (nearly a page a day) to scrapping rarely (like one page a year) right around the time we started experiencing schooling difficulties (in pre-school, six years ago)–which was incredibly difficult because I was engaged in a creative business at the same time. Now, that we’re well into our second year of homeschooling (D is now in 4th grade), the churning has subsided and we’ve settled into a more natural rhythm (and a lifestyle more suited to us). Likewise, I’ve begun scrapbooking again–A LOT. I’ve been creating multiple pages a day (making up for lost time, maybe, LOL).

    Finally, the main show topic resonated, too, and I just love the considered advice! Such a great show that has really touched my heart.

    Thanks so much to all of you! =)

    ~Liz

  • Deanna Munger

    I want to add my agreement on a couple of points. First, we should give our kids some independent time. Just because our kids SAY we aren’t paying them enough attention doesn’t make it true! My kids have literally begged me not to shower!! *Everyone* is glad I didn’t cut out my showering time to please them ;). It’s really good for kids to get bored enough to get creative- make up their own games, invent a story, pull out an unused toy.

    Second, art is re-creative. It feeds the heart and mind in a way that other activities do not. People are wired to participate in creation. Everyone has to find their own way to do that, but whatever your way is, that’s a valuable thing. We inherently know the value of art… And scrapbooking counts as art! So, as a mom of young children, I need that balance in my life and would not want to set it aside.

    I love the idea of giving the kids a chance to participate in art, but it’s also ok to model it for them and let them find their way into creativity through their own play. Meaning, if my boys don’t naturally want to scrapbook with me, I don’t have to feel bad about that :-)

    Finally, I agree that it’s important to teach our kids through our own behavior that everyone matters – including me! We do sacrifice a lot for our kids, and that’s necessary, but they should see that we value ourselves enough to stick with the things that we love and are beneficial. If I want to teach them to value others I need to both value them (I could certainly stand to put down the phone a little more often!) and value me. They can practice by leaning to respect the time I spend on things that are important to me. It takes practice to get good at something after all!

    On the practical side, once I had children I did get rid of forms of creativity that required me to meet a deadline, or do things at certain times, in favor of things that I could work in on my own schedule. I needed things I could do in small time increments. And for the times I know I really do need to give the kids more of my attention, we can always do laundry together or I can read or play with them and leave the laundry undone and facebook unchecked. I just don’t want to cut out the scrapbooking/art time!

    Thanks for another great show and for the awesome member videos!

  • Beth McLaughlin Quiroz

    I didn’t start scrapbooking until my kids were much older (my son had just graduated from high school & my daughter was still in high school), so I never had to worry about taking time away from my kids in order to scrap. However, my kids were babies when I was in college and I remember having those feelings of guilt for taking time away from them while I was in class or trying to study. What I later realized was that I needed that time for myself in order to be a better mother. By working towards my education, I was becoming a better person and therefore a better mother. You could say the same thing about scrapbooking. By allowing ourselves the time to recharge creatively and to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our surroundings through journaling, we become better people, and therefore better parents.

    Great show, as always!

  • http://www.liznessstudio.com Liz Ness

    Totally agree! I read this great book a few years back and really took the advice to heart (http://www.amazon.com/Perfect-Madness-Motherhood-Age-Anxiety-ebook/dp/B004IATCIE). I think we risk losing ourselves if we completely serve others and that we must take care of ourselves first. And, like you said, there are so many ways to do that.

  • Beth McLaughlin Quiroz

    Liz – I tried your link and it didn’t work. AAAAACCKKKKK :)

  • http://lifeonlakeland.wordpress.com/ Alissa W

    Another great episode! I’m a full time working mom with a 2 year old and 4 year old. I started project life when I had my second child and that’s helped me feel like I am still creating/preserving our story so that someday I can go back and make layouts for bigger things or maybe not. In the last year I’ve also really found my groove in terms of taking time for myself and I go “binge crop” at a scrapbook store once a month. In the weeks leading up to crop night I pull photos, mull journaling, kit up supplies and do a lot of that “scrapping in my brain” that Ashli referred to (LOVE THAT PHRASE) so when I get to the store I can create 5-8 layouts.

    As for community I highly recommend Jennifer Wilson’s Simple Scrapper membership – we have a private facebook group and people post layouts and ask questions and get support. It’s been a real help to me this past year as I got my scrappy mojo back. I also love Big Picture – but you need to be active in a class I feel to get the community interaction.

  • http://www.liznessstudio.com Liz Ness

    Oh no, I’m sorry. It was a link to amazon to the book Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the age of Anxiety. It was an interesting comparison about expectations on mothers in France vs. the United States (both external and internal). Rather than that comparison, though, I really liked how the author helped me identify my own filters so that I could see the different cultural context and apply important questions to my own life. =)

  • Jenn Lynn

    I love the phrase “binge crop” !!

  • Marie-Pierre Capistran

    I love the beginning of your comment, about the shower. :) Thanks for the reminder that it’s not because they say it that it means it’s true.

  • geezee

    I haven’t finished listening yet, but I had a remark I wanted to make in reference to the ‘child molester’ and not caring about hurting their feelings. That person is not the only person that can get hurt by comments, attitudes and thoughts being made semi-public. Victims, children of victims and family or friends that were not privy to full disclosure can also have feelings that can be affected or brought up by LO’s that convey these things. I am only trying to bring up another perspective, hopefully in the spirit of love for the scrapbooking way of life. I pray for healing for all touched by this evil of which Noell spoke.

  • http://www.paperclipping.com Noell

    Yes – I was meaning that if I had been molested myself then I have every right to scrapbook abt it if I want. I would never scrapbook abt that if it happened to someone else.

  • Gypsy

    I have four kids aged 16, 13, 6 and 2… I can see the irony in the fact I listened to this episode whilst scrapbooking at 1:45am!

  • Scrappytams

    I like Whimsical Musings as a challenge blog. They are ordinary scrappers, meaning they don’t work in the industry, nor are they sponsored by certain product lines. They just love to scrap and they enjoy posting weekly challenges. You can find them here:

    http://whimsicalmusingschallenge.blogspot.com/

  • Gwynn Asbury

    I realize that this episode was about scrapbooking in motherhood – I will admit I do not have children, however, I do have relationships that are important to me and in my opinion all relationships regardless of age require fostering, care, attention, and feeding. With that said, I can say as a full-time PhD student with a husband who is also going to school, sometimes I also feel guilty when I sit down to scrapbook. This is of course something that has been modeled for me by someone else in my life, who I also value. And I have to agree that as women we are socialized to put all others before ourselves – every time I sit down to scrapbook I worry about the laundry not getting done and if someone else seeing the pile would think we live in squaller…. I also fee bad about not dedicating all my left over time to my dear hubby. Being reflective about what I am doing and why doesn’t always take away the anxiety, but it does help. Sometimes I will reflect on where I am spending my time while scrapbooking, and if I realize that my relationships with others needs more attention and time than my relationship with myself, then it’s okay to sit down and back away from the scrap table. I know the show talked about working time into scrapbooking, however I do think there are times when we need to make an effort to take time away from scrapbooking. Meaning, I also think many of us feel guilty about NOT scrapbooking. Hope that makes sense. I loved the show, thanks for another awesome episode!

  • Beth McLaughlin Quiroz

    Gwynn – that is so true! There are no “shoulds” with scrapbooking and no set of rules to follow. Scrap when your heart is in it and don’t when it’s not. And as the daughter of a psychology professor, I can empathize with your time constraints. I was a child when my mom was going through grad school – most of our time was spent either at her school or at home with her working. Not to say she wasn’t a great mom – she was – but I know about how all-encompassing grad school can be! :)

  • Becky Pospical

    I can completely relate to the feelings shared in this episode. I am a firm believer that as women, we NEED to find things for OURSELVES! And for many of us in this community, it’s scrapbooking. I have a sister who loves coaching volleyball, that’s her thing. Everyone has their “thing.” As women we always want to be able to do everything, take care of everyone, make all things right in the world and have a clean house and a piece of cake too. We have to realize that it just doesn’t work that way. It is completely OK to be away from our children, husbands, boyfriends, whatever. Not only do I think it’s ok, I think it’s necessary. When we are away from the ones we love (even if it’s in the other room scrapping) they have a greater appreciation for us when we return. Noell, I appreciated your many comments about it being ok to have our own time and showing our children so that they will take that into their adulthood also. My mother has many hobbies and I remember many times when it was her time in her sewing room, door closed and my brothers and sisters and I entertained ourselves AND WE SURVIVED!!!
    I know it’s a hard thing but my wish would be for women and mothers to quit feeling guilty about taking time for themselves. :). As long as we are caring for our families, there is no guilt.
    Love listening each week and listening to back episodes. Thanks!!!!!

  • Lisa

    Ashli, thank you for the shout out about Paper Issues! We have a new challenge and link up every two weeks, with a new one starting tomorrow. Don’t miss out on the fun (and the great prizes): http://www.paperissues.blogspot.com/.

  • http://www.liznessstudio.com Liz Ness

    Oh, their site looks like a lot of fun! =)

  • http://www.liznessstudio.com Liz Ness

    I can relate, too. When we have a lot of responsibilities–both things we love and things that just need doing–it’s easy to feel guilty in either direction. I’ve been working on that, myself. Thanks for your courage to share that! =)

  • http://www.liznessstudio.com Liz Ness

    Totally agree! Also, one of the things I say to my son and that he agrees is true is that boredom is one of the seeds of creation. I love it when he says, “I was a little bored and then…”

    The “and then” story is always so very cool. He’s such an inventive little dude! =)

  • http://www.liznessstudio.com Liz Ness

    Me too! And, I love that you (Alissa) have a store near you that has a monthly crop! Very cool!

  • Lani

    Hello! I’ve been listen to the roundtable for about a year now and love your show, I even like when you go totally off topic!(thanks Izzy!) This episode really resonated with me because I am a homeschooling mom of 3 children 5 and under. I also still work outside of the home so needless to say I don’t have much time to scrap. That being said I DO scrap! I may not do it as fast as I’d like but it gets done. I have a few tips to offer others like me, I’m not a FABULOUS scraper by any means but I’m happy with my pages! Here is my system and I hope it helps someone out there! If not, IGNORE ME! LOL! I have young kids so my albums are mostly in categories, you know, “pregnancy”, “first year”, etc. I also do my scrap “prep work” in stages. 1st- I get on the computer and print all the photos that I deem “scrap worthy” (I feel so powerful at that point! LOL) I print them and place the envelope in an album (its actually cheaper to print bunch elsewhere with a coupon than to waste my paper and ink at home for big projects). The next time I get a 20 min slot or so for myself, I decide the order I’d like them to appear in the album and place those pictures in the page protectors in order until next time, the following time I choose the paper and organize that I order as well, and so on…. This part isn’t the fun part BUT when I do get a blissful hour or two to myself…. ITS GO TIME!! and I get to PLAY and enjoy without all the decision making (which for me honestly is sometimes aggravating). I find when I do it like this, the times I DO get to scrap I enjoy it more and I’m way more productive since the time consuming prep work is done. I’ve been known scrap 6 12×12′s in a night (2-3 hours max…then I get sleepy) and before I was lucky if I finished 1 in a night. I also don’t worry about my handwriting, I figure these albums are for my family, when I’m long gone they will have an accurate representation of “mom”. As far as embellishments, I love ephemera, I use hospital bracelets, cards from floral arrangements, and “welcome baby” cards in my albums, buttons from gift bags…. I rarely need to waste money on embellishments when I have more sentimental stuff absolutely free. That being said I do buy some but not a lot! And all ephemera is placed in shoeboxes by child, so not too space taking…. WOW!!! THAT WAS LONG!! SORRY!! hope it helped someone!!

  • Karen Poirier-Brode (Ladydoc)

    Jenny, I love your sense of humor! I like playful scrapbook pages, too!

  • Lani

    I just wanted to say thanks for reading my comment! And Noell had my name perfect! (Actually a shortened version of my full name which you would’ve REALLY had difficulty with!) Another great show thanks!

  • http://www.LindaTieu.com/ Linda Tieu

    I really enjoyed this podcast, thank you for sharing the tips for new moms. My boy is 1 year old and I’m still trying to figure things out and find some kind of balance in life. I have realized that routines need to be flexible, because he is growing and changing so fast… once we have a routine down, it suddenly needs to change already!

  • Sandy Baldwin

    Too funny re be more fun than my scrapbooking and I’ll spend all my time with you comment

  • Sandy Baldwin

    I often try to involve my kids in my scrapbooking. I have a work space for them and I let them create stuff when I do. Or they do another craft like stitching or puzzles. I often listen to music when scrapbooking or watch youtube vids and they watch/listen to it too. They sit next to me and we talk. My husband will also come in when I’m scrapping or PL’ing and sit and talk with me too.

  • krizbee

    I know I am rather tardy to the party but flickr can be a really good source for scrapbook layouts and if you join the right groups, commentary also.